You are the one who suggested it could be a sandbox, not me,
A sandbox game isn't necessarily resolving around a harem.
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is a sandbox game, with a point system, pure grinding, and only one character.
Sisterly Lust, on the other hand, it's possible to fuck up one of the sister's stories and keep playing. I wouldn't know about the mom route, but I haven't tried to tank it so I never would.
The point wasn't if it's possible or not, but what should be the normal consequence if it happen. Whatever if you are her son or not, if you mess up with the mother, she will kick you out of the house to protect her daughters. They lived without you for almost 15 years, they can continue now that they don't miss a son/brother, but a fucking jerk.
It will not necessarily end with a "game over", it depend of the relation you already have established with the sisters. By example at the actual state of the game, the youngest is totally dependent of you ; if you're kicked out, she'll run away with you. The one in the middle is just sexually addicted, so she'll try to see you time to time, but can also let it go. But if it happen early in the game, well... you were here and are their brother, but they have full trust on their mother to take the good decisions for them.
Unless you are mentally ill in some way, [...]
First, I don't like the word "illness" here, it let think that it's curable, which isn't the case ; you can only control, partially or totally, parts of the effects. The brain is damaged in a way or another, and despite its capacity to evolve constantly, these damages can't be reversed. But it's not a critic, just an information.
This said, in the US, each year 1 out of 5 adults suffer from a temporary
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. This while 21,8% suffer from a more in depth mental condition (schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, PTSD, OCD, major phobia). Note that this number don't include the autistic troubles nor less prominent pathologies like psychopathy by example ; so you can estimate that in the US, 1 adult out of 3 suffer from a permanent strong mental condition.
But the effective number is higher since each one of these pathologies have many variations, some of them being less visible. By example someone suffering from a small form of simple schizophrenia can live normally ; he will just be seen as an awkward introvert with sometimes some crazy ideas. Same for someone suffering from a small form of bipolar disorder, who'll be seen a just emotionally unstable. But, despite the lack of visible sign, and so the fact that themselves don't know that they suffer from a mental condition, the disorder still works inside their head and act as an effective bias deforming the reality and what they get from their experiences. In the end, you can reasonably estimate the number between 35% and 40% of the US population.
Like I can't found reliable sources for more global statistics, I'll stand with the 15% I already used. But it was the estimate number in the early 2000, a time where the world still thought that their were only one form of autism, two of schizophrenia, and so on. Therefore, a time where many people where suffering without being effectively detected as having a mental condition. Globally the effective number is probably more around 25%.
You watch and learn from your parents at a young age, hence, people who grow up in abusive homes learn to handle their issues in the same way, a destructive cycle of nurture.
The learning phase and its obvious-like consequences are true only for pathologies that don't start at a young age, and obviously for people who don't have a pathology at all.
To revert your example, someone suffering from the early form of schizophrenia can be in a loving family, and still live it as being in an abusive home. For him a, "no, you can't do this", can be seen as a proof that his parents don't effectively love him and fake it. A, "we go eat at grandpa's house today", can be lived as a trauma because this particular day he need to be let totally alone. Not only his parents don't love him, but they like to see him suffer ; because they like it, look how happy they are this day, while he's suffering in silence (paranoia is a component of schizophrenia).
Even a lack of empathy can be a problem of Nurture, with empathy being something we learn early through our environment, though some do still have a natural born block against that.
It's not to contradict you, but alas, it's not this simple.
What form of empathy are you talking about here ? There's the natural empathy (an extension of what is called "sympathy"), the emotional empathy (you feel what the others feels), and the cognitive empathy (you understand what the others feels). [Note that I translate literally the french names, they can be different in English.]
Actually it is supposed that we are all born with natural empathy, then develop it further or tend to forget it, depending of our life ; but as far as I know it's still neither proved nor invalided.
Yet, it's still not as simple as this, because these three forms of empathy aren't exclusive. You can have one, two or the three of them. So far there's seven possible combinations, and therefore seven different personalities ; seven different way to perceive the experience you're facing and seven different way to grow your own personality. And we are just talking about "empathy".
You can enforce (acquire if it's finally not from birth) the natural empathy, like you can acquire the cognitive one. But unless you suffer from a mental condition, temporarily or not, there's few cases where you can acquire emotional empathy.
To this, you have to add the fact that you can suffer from the deprivation of one, two or the three forms of empathy. And, no, a deprivation isn't here the same thing than not having it. To explain the difference I'll take the cognitive empathy. Not having it mean that you understand that the others feels something, but you can't understand what is this something ; "poor guy, he just lost his father. I don't know what he feel, but it must be difficult to live". This while being deprived of it mean that you can't understand why they feel something ; "what the fuck man ? Alright you lost your father, but do you really need to be like this ?"
I'll not do the math here, but between the "having", "not having" and "being deprived of", just for "empathy" you already face almost twenty different personalities.
Now, forget about the deprivation, which probably never occur outside of a mental condition or physical brain damages, to go back to the seven basic combinations. They mean that there's seven different way to perceived a, "why are you like that, can't you be a little more compassionate, he's father died !" ; still just talking about empathy and without counting the variation of intensity.
While there's two way to acquire cognitive empathy, by going deep in your psychology studies or by passing through many suffering during you life, there's only one to enforce/acquire natural empathy. And it's by being surrounded by people who have it or by people in need of your compassion. Simply because, unlike cognitive empathy who can be both a knowledge and a state of mind, natural empathy can only come from a state of mind. You can fake compassion, but then you don't have natural empathy, you just have a good social behavior ; "good social behavior" which finally add an artificial fourth state.
What makes you so sure that one's introversion isn't specifically the result of the other's extroversion?
On the instant, nothing and it can be effectively the case. Over a long period of times, by the way the introvert will react and to what he will react.
Even with strongly marked conditions like autism, you can't put a diagnostic with a single situation. It's the repetition, frequency and context's variations that permit to do it. And in this case, if you know what you are looking for, you'll be able to make the difference between someone who's not at ease when surrounded by too extrovert peoples, and someone who's effectively introvert.
The more obvious way to make the difference being, in this case, to saw this person being an extrovert when there isn't someone way more too extrovert. Still it's not an effective proof. Some introverts can be extrovert if they're at ease, peaceful and surrounded by only people they trust and like ; a little bit of alcohol can help. So, look how long it last, because if he's effectively an introvert, it will end quickly.
Put simply, I disagree. Unless you have a mental illness, there is nothing stopping you from changing except for you. And to be frank, I won't budge on this.
Well, you can stay on your position, it don't bother me. At least as long as you clearly understand that, with at least 30% of the US population suffering from a permanent mental condition, and around 20% of the US population suffering from a temporary one, at any time, there 1 out of 2 chance that the person in front of you suffer from a mental condition preventing him to change.
And also at least as you clearly understand that it's still stay true for only half of the people who aren't actually suffering from a mental condition. Like I tried to explain above about empathy, it's not always just a matter of will ; you can't learn natural empathy if you don't face (really many) situations that force your brain to restructure itself in the right way. Like I said, it can be because he's surrounded by people who need his compassion, or because he's surrounded by people who already have a natural empathy. But learning it by himself is impossible. What he'll learn this way is not natural empathy, but what I called "good social behavior" ; so he will "fake it", not "have it". This said, if he pass enough year faking it many times a year, it's not impossible that he end really "having it".
No, that's not true at all. ESPECIALLY for a repeat victim.
Alright, I'll stop you here. What I said is not something I read or something I thought. It's something I heard, coming from the victims themselves, when I was younger and volunteered in a center that help victims of abuse.
Perhaps that the particular conditions in the US generate a context different enough to not let to the victims the time to understand it, but it doesn't mean that it's false. It must be acknowledged that between Europe, where if you are cut of the support of your abuser, you're just on your own and still continue to live a decent life most of the time, it's not the same in the USA. Unless you have a job and can keep it without risk, you end deprived of everything, including basic health support, you know that your children will probably not be able to attend college (perhaps even not university), and you don't earn money anymore.
I can understand that, because the society you live in make you pass from "victims" to "you don't exist anymore", you need effective external help to understand that you grown stronger. Just because, yes, you surely don't feel stronger when you don't eat one day out of two, because else you'll not be able to pay for the basic health need of your children. But, like I said, it doesn't mean that it's false, just that you aren't in position to see it.
Victims become conditioned to respond to certain things.
Conditioning that already start to fade, otherwise they wouldn't run away. But here you miss the fact that there's a difference between being conditioned and being strong. And that's perhaps why you think I was contradicting myself later.
Conditioning is an unconscious reaction to a trigger, while being strong is a natural condition. You can see it with child who where victims of domestic violence. Even decades after the end of these violence, there will still be case where their first reaction will be to protect themselves. This even if they now are strong person who dedicated their time to help and protect child who live the same situation. They can face without problem an abusive father more muscular than them. They can stay impassible when he'll threaten them physically, they can even fight him if needed... And still there will be time where they'll protect themselves if their wife/husband have a too sudden movement.
And that's why the girl in my example can be strong, and still fallback to her previous self because of a new cycle of repeated abuse. The mental suffering caused by the reminiscences of her youth will slowly hide her strength to her own eyes. She's not effectively weak, she's maintained in a condition of weakness by her suffering.
Mental suffering is like a cocoon. It's something comfortable where you already know everything that will happen. It's only bad things, but you know them, you know what they'll do to you, you know when they'll happen, your prepared and trained. Whatever how difficult it is to live, it's still easier to stay in this state, than having to face the unknown of the life. So, when facing an unexpected situation ("I'm not like your parent, I really love you... by the way take that bitch, you forgot my beer."), and with the help of the reminiscences of her youth, she'll fallback to what she know. But like I said it don't removed her strength, it just hide it.
But well, I confess that I don't find the words to express it efficiently. You probably need to have a strong background in regard of mental suffering and its process, to understand it with just my words. Which make it impossible to place in a game because, as realist as it is, it's a situation that will be understood by too few players. They'll probably love to play this game, but you don't make a game for tens peoples.
In a story, not a game, but a story, you're not meant to immerse yourself.
Wait, what ? Who said this stupidity ? Sorry for the word and if it hurt you, it's not my intent, but it's the nicest word I can find because it's really a stupidity. I don't know where this idea come from, but if it come from someone you trust to know how to write, I'm not sure that you should continue listening him.
It's hard to find references now that the world is massively talking about immersion through virtual reality. Yet, what about this (
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"All the arts depend upon telepathy to some degree, but I believe that writing is the purest distillation," says King. An important element of writing is transference. Your job isn't to write words on the page, but rather to transfer the ideas inside your head into the heads of your readers.
This telepathic transfer can't effectively succeed if the reader don't achieve to immerse himself, more or less deeply, into your story. I would add that it also can't succeed if, as author, you don't immerse at least a part of yourself in your story. It's because now both of you share the same experience, through feelings sharing a common core, that this transfer works.
In fact, immersion is such a thing, that a whole study was conducted on
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, by using the level of immersion felt by the reader as measure.
Sure, you might imagine yourself as the hero, but it isn't the you that you are, it's the you that you want to be. It's aspirational.
Neither one, nor the other, it's who you temporarily are. You don't want to be him/her and you never cease to know that you aren't him/her. You just borrow his/her eyes and emotions for some times.
But I never said that everyone can achieve it. There's people who are totally refractory to reading ; some studies from the 80's (didn't found references) tend to say that it could come from the fact that they can't achieve at least a small level of immersion when they are reading.
And it's not inspirational, it's recreational, sometimes even something that distracts you from the reality.
In other words, a character defining change. I'm well aware of Bushido and what it means to be a Ronin. An act to restore one's Honor is an act that goes against their status as Ronin.
This would have been true if there were a relation between who you are, in term of personality, and what your status is. But there a long time that modern cultures integrated the fact that the two aren't in anyway linked.
If these seven rõnins weren't still samurai and if it wasn't something deeply rooted in them, they wouldn't care about their honor. At anytime they could have leaved their clothing and weapons, traveled to the other end of the country, and started a new live as peasant. Many have done it, rõnins who in fact never were real samurais, partly because they care most about their life than their honor.
Luke had no intent to fight against and destroy the empire, [...]
Are you sure about this ?
Take "Eragon" (E) (the book please, not the insulting movie) on one hand, and "A new hope" (SW) on the other. You'll see, it's interesting... I'll put it in spoiler, not because of Star Wars, but because of Eragon.