Jackie, bro. The standards for porn games are in the gutter. People know this, so when they tell you your game is shit, you might want to take a look at "why" they say it, and improve it following that. As much as you want to distance yourself, this "community" is the one that's the most invested.
Also, people wouldn't get this pissy about the patreon being a chasgrab if you didn't DMCA'd. Look at any of the popular games in here, all of them share the "premium" shit around. You don't have the cure for cancer, man. You're making a porn game where a girl fucks a horse. Ease up on it.