Just found out you can retreat from the masturbation in your room scenario, which seems to have almost no downsides at all-you wake up refreshed, no fatigue or pleasure, you barely get any passives, you have a low risk of discovery. This makes going for a Virgin run so much easier, since you can basically get like zero passives and might be able to get away with not even investing in Mind as much and going Str/Agi more. The only "cost" is Cockiness goes down by about 40%, and fatigue by 2%, but that's not really a cost at all considering how fast you regain Cockiness and how fatigue is instantly removed too.
The best ways to go pure/virgin route is probably Str/Agi/Mind (some mix) to dodge all attacks until enemies get frustrated, jack off, and then dodge all the cum matrix style (you only get the initial viewing ejaculation passives) and avoid accumulating pleasure due to not attacking or being hurt or ever losing to unlock the first Talk-pleasure passives, using the See/Hear/Speak no Evil strat (this approach seems unreliable overall, energy costs are high from spamming evasive stance, you have to keep dex low to make sure your attacks miss or only graze and you only attack when you need a turn to reset energy costs), or just going full offensive halberd combat but removing all pleasure at the end of the night with this retreat method. Up to now was an irritating game of attempting to get as close to 33% as possible and optimizing your edict path to a Str or Agi focused with secondary Mind approach while only fighting 2 battles a day to keep order barely above with pleasure below, but this means you could just go for 3 or even 4 fights and probably ignore the costs.