But it IS a lose condition, if you orgasm to a point of running out of energy the day progresses and you can't do anything else. To clarify, I'm not referring to having battle-sex but having your pleasure bar maxed out faster than you fill up theirs, which is what the defeat passives seem to do.
Not really, but you need proper energy management, which this game is all about. You can easily let Karryn cum dozen of times per battle and she'll still come on 'top'. She's the only character in this game capable of multiple orgasms, while her strongest opponents can cum three times at best. There are passives that improve her energy management and you'll only get these by engaging in sex and orgasming. A lot. Just make sure to enact mind related edicts that also improve the energy management. You'll come to a point in the game where 12+ men will fuck the living daylights out of her in the Solitary Room and she'll still come out 'victorious', covered in cum head to toe and sparkling like a tripped fuse. It's a hardcore sex game, not a chastity / cum denial quest, although you may try hard to play this style... and fail eventually.
There's probably a cultural divide here, my experience (and enjoyment) of sub/dom comes from things like Monmusu Quest...
And my experience comes from... real life. Believe me, I've yet to meet a sadistic or even a sexually dominant woman who'd 'punish' or 'top' me or any other man by fucking her dry ass with a penis. That's not how anal sex works. And that is why in my cultural sphere the expression 'to give ass' means to fail miserably/give up/submit.
, where sexual competence is the deciding factor of who is "topping",
Let's not confuse sexual competence with domination/submission or sadism & masochism. I am sure there are many seasoned masochists whose experience, sexual expertise and sheer enjoyment can dwarf that of their masters, mistresses, daddies and mommies. There may be and possibly are such gluttons for punishment with butts so resilient that can tire a spanking hand to complete exhaustion and still be 'demanding' more. I can imagine it can affect the dynamic of a BDSM relationship or scene at times, but it does not change the core of what BDSM sex is. And it is not about whoever comes last wins. Some subs will be denied orgasms, while some will be made to cum till they faint. The key word here is 'made'. BDSM is all about control and willingly giving it up. Even if giving up control is exactly what a sub wants, thus having their wish granted by a dom who takes the control. That's why in that aspect BDSM play is often referred to as 'power exchange'.
The dom you described sounds overtly neglect and denial play based, which I find problematic as wouldn't successful doms be blue-balling themselves? If getting laid is equivalent to not being dominant.
Again, it is about being in charge, not blueballing. A perfect Dom will be able to make their sub cum on demand or become frigid on demand, while a perfect sub will obediently cum on demand or become frigid on demand. The same perfect Dom will have any of their sexual whims satisfied with no objection, regardless of those wishes' specifics, while the same perfect sub will obey with no questions. So, if I demand (by adding 'Now, bitch!' to my request) that my sex partner bite and twist my nipples while deepthroating and don't they make me cum too soon, then there is no doubt who's on top here, even if receiving quite painful caresses. If I say 'Stop now! You'll make me cum too soon, silly cow!' and the silly cow stops, I am still exerting my dominance. And the cow still submits.
See like this here, I am reading different signals because from the sex skills, combat dialogue, and tooltips Karryn sounds like she is enjoying wrapping the prison around her fingertips, going as far as to drug the guards and inmates to satisfy her whims better.
That's because the game is a mixed bag of concepts that's not to be taken seriously. Despite being pure, absurdist sex fantasy the size of Karryn's bossoms, it still conveys that concept of 'topping from the bottom'. Is a wilful, enthusiastic submissive who will make a rattan cane themselves without being asked to do so and bring it to their Dom asking to be whipped soundly and with no mercy still a submissive? What if the Dom refuses? What if they agree?
These questions aside, the game still leans towards Karryn's ultimate submission. That's what even the introduction at the start of new game says. If there was a femdom ending to the bar service game, for example her demanding that the drunk inmates lick her pussy clean, while she pees into the mug... If she could bring her fallen foes to the Solitary confinement room to spank their butts and twist their nipples for a change... Would that be a more convincing sadistic woman rather that an anal addict? The sadistic Karryn build is either not well thought-out or just a ploy to convince the player that their tit-fucking, assfucking slut is one cruel Mistress, while in fact you get the same sex scenes of one woman getting fucked vigorously by numerous men, only with absurd colorful texts like: 'how did they let such a sexual predator be our subordinate?' 'Please Warden Karryn, my eyes are up here' or 'What an obedient cock. I'm going to give it an anal blowjob.'