Speaking of leaving children on the streets, is there some kind of "responsible parenting" mod? I understand how pregnancy and childcare should be as unintrusive as possible in a game like this, but having to hunt down your kids who inevitably become muggers or mushroom dealers is quite annoying (even after getting the offspring map), not to mention kinda depressing. I guess the most troubling thing is not having the option to keep your child around so you can support them from the start. I know there's an in-lore explanation, but it feels quite feeble. Seriously, who wouldn't think twice before striking out on their own if one of your parents lives in a huge mansion with rooms to spare?
If there's no mod like that out there, my idea would be adding a toggle in the birthing room to keep recently-delivered children at Lilaya's place so you can talk to them after you recover from birthing. The fathering counterpart could be adding something like a "children options/birthing options" dialogue option to pregnant named NPCs, then you can ask them to have the child at Lilaya's/have the children visit you there ASAP, or to have them do whatever.
I know nothing about modding and how hard it would be to implement those ideas, but hopefully it's doable.