If I had to say, it's the greater attention to the foreplay or coherence of the encounter rather than just pistoning non-stop. Women tend to have a more nuanced approach to these things whereas "most" men just wanna get it on right here right now XD Best examples I can think of to illustrate are the Rias and Jujutsu animations. Rias was an old revived project so its approach leaned more towards the female side of things before Maple could adjust her approach to what works with her audience. Meanwhile the newer Jujutsu one had great balance between the setup plus foreplay (there's even cuddling after the deed), and Yuji just goin' ape on Nobara's plump ass.