Degrees of Lewdity - You can customize the main character, the NPCs, and the fetishes available to your liking. It is mostly text-based though, but the animations available are really good. The story is also oddly engaging.
LeGendery Strangers - You play as a male and female MC, but you can toggle scenes involving the female MC off. Most content contains the male MC anyway.
Tales of Androgyny - Does contain a lot of futanari and feminine characters, but the MC is a trap that gets assaulted a lot by men, women, and monsters.
Sadly enough, those are the only ones I can think off from the top of my head now.