Some good points there and with the text I quoted the line about her being a ghost outside her body or something like that plays into that instead of being like you know what I fucked up il hold my hands up I'm in the wrong here and apologising
Also I always find it interesting in these games with the wife's desires and fetishes they never show the wife trying to act on these with the husband or partner it always just seems to go the route of he won't want to or he won't do it
Then the FMC eventually decides to do these with someone else
Which is where it all boils down to communication, now this might be naive of me to think but I do often think in a marriage or long term relationship if one party is bored or wants to try new things the chances are the other party likely feels the same way - obviously this is before either party cheats if it gets that far it is
I believe that in most marriages, people love the perception that the other person has made of them, or even enter into it loving another ideal that they have projected onto their spouse. They never show 100%, and so are never loved for their entirety. And depending on the culture, as in the comments above, or even in social niches, you cannot afford to expose your sexuality or your entire being, which can be dangerous to your own material security in every sense and emotionally.