Pr0GamerJohnny
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- Sep 7, 2022
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Yup - I'd echo this 100%.To me, the depth of the relationship between the MC and LI -- that being the love, respect, trust, and passion they share -- is predicated on many things, one of which absolutely includes their sex life. See, where "sex with the bull is worse than the MC ... it kills the immersion and ruins any suspension of disbelief" for you, to me I see two things there, 1) being sex with other partners shouldn't always be "better" than with the MC, it should be different in that she's fucking other men/bulls, and she's in love with MC and thus makes love to him BUT ALSO gets reclaimed by MC after she's stepped out (which I wouldn't describe as "making love" LOL). 2) being suspension of disbelief and immersion are both ruined, for me, when I'm supposed to fit in the shoes of a guy who isn't confident, in control, and respected. I can't picture myself IRL wanting to be in a relationship where I have to rely on others to satisfy my girlfriend, or where I get humiliated/specifically told that I don't measure up (I mean, if I don't measure up, cool, but that's on me to be better and figure out how to measure up).
(Sidebar, the reason that the conversation seems somewhat disjointed is this is a continuation of a multipage debate that was deleted from thread recently)
It's not about sex with the other guy being worse or better (it can be those things!) - it's about it being different. While I get the apprehension over those kinds of games that trip over themselves to make sure MC is the top dog, there's also a strong push from the ntr fandom to make it all about a winner and a loser. It's the sexual world through black and white.
Now, absent any ntr overtones, I'd probably prefer the gf/wife is with someone she enjoys, it doesnt do much if it's seen as a "charity fuck".