These kinds of conversations often become mixed up and confusing. Personally, I don't remember exactly who said what, but I remember much of what was said.
Some devs like to hear what people may want to see added as a game progresses.
It's fine to say, "I'd like to see X added to this game."
It's equally fine for people to respond with, "I would not like to see X added to this game."
Most of us here are not professional psychologists. I have no idea what lies behind the mind of a person who likes particular kinks in porn. I don't even know why I like a lot of the things I do. Maybe it's deep seeded childhood trauma, or maybe it's just a lark. Some of the anti-NTR comments get to be rather harsh, and they can go beyond simply voting against that content. That's when it becomes kink-shaming, and that's not okay, because people do not CHOOSE their own kinks anymore than they choose how tall they are. When we see something, we either like it or we don't. That's not something we can control. Whether there's a serious reason for it that may benefit from therapy or not is not the business of strangers on the internet. So, it's not fair or polite to shame people for it, even more so if there WERE some traumatic explanation behind it.
We can control how we treat other people. That's why kink-shaming is considered unacceptable in a place designed to cater to a wide variety of kinks. It stirs up trouble that no one needs or wants.