Thanks, I understand now better, what you mean, and where the differences are compared to the other paradigm. As I see it you are talking much more about sexual action and performance and satisfaction, the cuck paradigm talks about possession and disposssesion. Also you seem to see yourself and your gf as a sort of team with the common, shared aim to maximize pleasure, whereas the cuck sees himself in a play of power, control and possession which is not played together, as a team, but against each other so to speak (notwithstanding close emotional bonds of course, but it is a struggle BETWEEN, not TOGETHER). For him it's about access and non-access, for you it's about performance.