dontcarewhateverno
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- Jan 25, 2021
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TLDR: We're definitely speaking past each other.We're perhaps thinking about two different things. Based on your description, it sounded to me you're talking about an arrangement where one person sleeps around as they please and occasionally "teases" the other about being a little, worthless cuck, but both sides still remaining loving and respectful for each other.
"Playful teasing" about person being essentially worthless simply doesn't remain just teasing with no impact on the relationship. Keep it up long enough and it will get under the skin of person who keeps hearing they're worthless, and take a root in the mind of the person who does the "teasing", as well. Maintaining a good, equivalent relationship in such situation becomes increasingly difficult. The implausible/unrealistic aspect i was referring to was apparent expectations such thing will have no effect on relationship dynamic and the pair will remain as loving and respectful for each other as they ever were.
I think you're presuming way too much here, and coming strongly as someone who tries to speak from position of authority yourself.
Though you were making quite a few assumptions here too. I never once said anything about playfully teasing "about a person being essentially worthless". That's the sort of unrealistic fetish usually relegated to extreme porn or bad erotic writing (fair enough, very common in a lot of badly written games on here). I wouldn't generally call it playful & it's actually the kind of thing I'd rather avoid in these stories, only partially because of that implausibility*. (I mean, if your partner considers you "worthless", why the hell are you together? It takes out all the tension and push/pull dynamic, too. If the relationship isn't worth it, there are no stakes = Not interesting). Never said "sleeps around as they please" either, fwiw. That can be open to interpretation and degree, but any healthy long-term relationship is eventually going to need some mutually agreed upon boundaries and considerations for each other for it to last.
So it seems like you've based your interpretation and argument on a few things I didn't say. I was thinking more along the lines of her being a big slut "that can't help herself" & playfully teasing about all the big cocks she can't resist filling her up, like some of the dialogue at the end of Chapter 10, which an astute Lena may interpret turns the right kind of Ian on. The turn towards intentional meanness I detect that path heading towards is exactly what I didn't want. Helpless nymphos with a heart of gold FTW.
I never said I was against anyone speaking with authority in general, either. Only when they're also unfamiliar with the subject matter. You just struck me as having a narrow view of what that kink entailed based on your responses & interpretation of what I was talking about.
People have different communication styles, leading to bad communication/interaction, which I think is the case with us. Unfortunately for everyone, we're both similar in wanting to have the last word.
*Fair enough to note, the more extreme, S&M style humiliation kink can be handled well too for a plausible long-term relationship, provided both partners set boundaries & discuss before & after + get something out of it. It's just not my particular preference - Neither the kink or subject matter.
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