I always find it weird people say dating Ian is settling. I guess if you don’t do the IanxLena path maybe it would seem that way but the dude shares similar interests to her, she says many times how she finds him aesthetically appealing, sexually they are very compatible (as is shown many times), and he seems to really care about her. Depending on how you play it he is even willing to support her kinks.This is to EK's credit a realistic depiction of one of the great dilemmas of modern dating, is it not? Attraction to the "alpha" while the more relationship-compatible guy is overlooked. But if the attraction is not there, it just isn't. Then going for the stable guy is just settling, which is a viable mating strategy but typically not common at Lena's age.
If that is “settling” I think a whole lot of people would be more willing to settle. Now if Ian was like Robert or Jeremy someone she is a lot less similar to and also a lot less sexually compatible with I would agree but come on that is clearly not the case with Ian.
I don’t know if people who hate Ian only play him as being a loser or something but if you play him well he is a top tier male…