| Vee |
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- Jun 2, 2022
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I know bud that you don't appreciate cheating too as you said it in previous postOk, let me start by saying that I've never been cheated on (as far as I know) neither have I ever cheated on the context of a monogamous boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. So I apologize in advance if my opinion feels thoughtless to those of you who might have been hurt by cheating, that's not my intent.
I don't think cheating is justified, it's wrong. My point is that not all kinds of cheating are equally wrong. Human relationships are complex and sometimes the end of a relationship kind of blends into the start of another one. That's specially true for people afraid of being alone (not my case), they might find very difficult to end a relationship without the prospect of a new one. That prospect new relationship meaning there has already been sex with the new person or not, I consider it cheating anyway and don't think that the sex makes such a big difference (which was my point for the Ian/Cindy thing). Also the soon to be ex it's going to be hurt by the ending of the relationship and (probably) the start of the new one wether there was sex before the breakup (assuming they are aware, it they don't it's kind of a victimless crime) or not.
So yes, cheating is a bad thing, but just as many other bad things we somethimes do during our lifes, it doesn't mean that we are going to do them again in different circunstances. Just as someone never cheating on the past, doesn't mean they will never cheat in any possible future situation.
It's all just for healthy discussion. Peace!