| Vee |
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That's exactly why you need to let go of this. Either you help someone and don't expect something in return or just don't help.I don't believe it was "Fear / Safety" issue that was her motivation. The reason that I feel that was is that she literally handed me her tire iron. Because if she figured I was a danger / threat to her then she is not going to give me an object that could very much be a murder weapon. I single smash with a tire iron could crack someones skull open like an egg.
Much more likely in my opinion is what I call the "Fuck you! I got mine!" mindset. You will see it on various levels if you go out and interact with people. I believe it is rooted in narcissism.
Like a cart in a parking lot not put back in the cart corral. They already did their shopping. They are leaving. They don't care if that blocks a parking spot, or hits someone car, or leaves the cart coral empty. Because... They got theirs.
Like if you get on a bus, and someone is listening to music loudly from their phone. No headphones, they don't' care that others don't' want to hear their taste of music. They are getting theirs.
Like that coworker that will steal someones lunch from the fridge. They don't care someone else is going hungry that day. It's all about the "Fuck you I got mine." and in this case even if it's yours.
Like the person who uses a public toilet and shits all over the seat. They don't care, they are not cleaning it up. They don't care who is coming in next.
Like the old couple that will vote against funding the public schools because their kids are already adults. They don't want their tax dollars going to something they don't benefit from directly.
It's all the same mindset... "Fuck you! I got mine!" There are a lot of these people out there.
You never know sometimes they might be having worse day than you, sometimes they are just like that, sometimes they are just bad people.
The point is you shouldn't hung up on these things. Help someone if it makes you happy/want to help or don't help simply to avoid this behavior from them. It's simple as that.