The staircase infront of your room in the temple... and later at your bed when you sleep in the temple
Now that you say it I never spend time in the temple aside from quest and I'm not sure how far I'm in the story, my playthrough is a mess.Sometimes you'll catch her in the stairway outside you're room.
After having 5 kids in the Temple she will have a chance to appear at you're bedside at night.
Time to make babies then
Thanks to both of you