Having followed the game for a looooooooooong while and seen various complaints about it, I think there's a combination of issues.
First is that no matter how much content you put out, when you put out content someone doesn't like, even optional content, they'll still look at that and go, "But you could have done X that I would have liked instead." Call it seeing the fetish half empty. I think it's unfair, at least when the content you don't like is as easily avoidable as it is in this game, especially since the end goal for a game is the final version, not the next monthly update. By the time this game is finished, judging from how close the end feels (Feels pretty far away still), there'll be a huge amount of all the content in the game, enough you could easily split it off into a game based around each fetish. But for those who view things that way, "Do you enjoy half the content?" sadly isn't an argument that will sway them.
The second issue is that what's in an update can swing wildly. To use the changelogs as an example, in 0.2.39, you added Rowan x Delane, Jezera x NPC, Alexia x Greyhide, Alexia futa solo, with a new X'zaratl event. So, anyone here for the M/F Rowan content like myself might have just taken that month off. (I didn't, because Delane, but that says more about how much I like Delane than anything else.) Meanwhile, 0.2.37 was a smorgasbord of Rowan content. Rowan x Liural x Alexia, Rowan x Emma, Rowan x Delane, Shaya solo. Even the non-sex scenes focus on Rowan interacting with others very heavily, with Delane's escape and three new Fey events. Obviously game updates would be pretty odd if they were tailored to "Have a certain split of content each month," but when a couple months in a row happen with less of some content, I imagine those considering becoming a patron or who already are one feel a bit put off. So while it's unfair, it is a bit more understandable. I'd argue it does come from mistakenly viewing Patreon as a "Pay for something you want" site rather than a "Support something you want to see completed/completed faster" site, but that's an entire can of worms itself.
There's no full-on map, but the capital is pretty easy to find via the roads. The quickest way is the northern portal near Orcaid, and then just following the road east. Otherwise from the castle, follow the road north-west, cross the...I feel like there's a river there?, and then turn east.
As to the wagon, sadly the shop UI is kinda meh right now. Red means you can't afford it, but the rest shouldn't actually be free, they should just be some amount you can afford. But until you buy them you can't really tell how much they cost or what they do.
Second edit, wee: One thing you can do, if you enable the console, is select a zoom out option while on the map, which can give you a huge overview, and turn fog of war off. If you're just downright lost trying to find something, can be useful, but shouldn't be needed for the capital.