Just because you choose to do something in a videogame doesn't necessarily mean you morally agree with it. This goes for both Rowan and Alexia.
This is a bit frustrating, especially the "saving Helena and then Alexia gets mad" part. I 100% understand being upset at the sexual infidelity, but it's like Alexia doesn't even consider the moral aspect of the situation, that abandoning Helena means her losing her autonomy, possibly forever.
Because it is scripted in the story i think that Alexia have suspicious of Rowan that he in secret loved Helayna, and because of that he cuck her instead of believed that he "saved her"... It would be good if that could be changed if we can make use of diplomatic or whatever social skill that we can raised to make her believe what we wanted in the first place.
I consider the choices you make not as your choice but as an alternate version. also, i think you're missing the point. its the hypocrisy. She acts completely loyal but is the first to hop on another dick with very little prompting and not being exposed to depravity yet. but gets absolutely butthurt when he saves someone very close to him from being an orc fleshlight because their captors chose to completely fuck with her mind.
She does it willingly with very little prompting pretty much right away because was nice to her. he did it to give someone he cares about some scrap of dignity.
if she was ok with it, i'd have no problems with her on this, but shes a hypocrite to the worst degree given she's potentially the first to cheat.
As far as i can remember, you can make Alexia a whore before that event happened (not high corruption because it is too early but is possible for her to cuck Rowan), you just need to actually agree with Andras when you choose for her every time without Rowan even noticing, then Alexia acts in the most hypocrisy ever seen, because knowing that she cucked Rowan she still wait loyalty in Bloodmeen.
And that happened because i think this event is scripted, you can't make use of social traits to make her believed what you wanted, it is what it is, but still a justify scripted event, because it is later that we know that in some way Rowan and Alexia had marriage issues, and in that event precisely she confirms her suspicious about Rowan had some loved for her more than just an act of save Helayna...
Well firstly you have to take into account the kind of character that Alexia is, she's a village farm girl who's been captured and is essentially the shackle keeping her husband in service to demons (at least during the beginning) she super insecure about her powerlessness and now her husband is fucking some other girl who is essentially "better" than her in several aspects. Also again YOU as a player have the choice of having Alexia cheat, it's not like you have to default to Alexia fucking Andras every time, so it's not in every case that Alexia is being hypocritical here. I'd also say that this argument doesn't really hold up when considering Greyhide and how Rowan has the opportunity through the player's choice to get pissed at Alexia for fucking Greyhide even when Rowan at this point could've fucked many others. I'm a bit confused on how you expect Alexia to just be ok with her husband fucking another girl in their bed, sure you can say Rowan didn't have a choice and he had to do it to guarantee her safety but at the end of the day Alexia still has every right to be upset. That isn't something you just shrug your shoulders and say "Oh whatever, no big deal". IMO Alexia honestly takes it about as well as she can, and once Winter is able to get back to writing Heylana this will definitely be expanded upon.
That depends on the point of view... She can be as hard and stoic like a immovable mountain by saying no to Andras (something i really piss off because Andras could just take her right there), the thing is, if she can face a Demon that have her prisoner with her husband and said "no" to him every time he wanted to seduce her, she isn't exactly in the role of a insecure person... Meanwhile, if we choose for her being a NTR whore, she still isn't insecure, because there is an scene when she is in medium-high corruption when she confronts Orcs for called her a "Whore", she convinced Andras to do a lesson and he complies, then later the Orc ask for her pardon and she doesn't accepted by criticize the Orc for being too Beta to comply his Master Andras. In a way or another, she doesn't look for me an insecure girl of a village, she can be a saint (and if we can play like that in the next two Arcs i waited for her to being the mortal reincarnation of the Goddess of Order or some kind of shit like that
)or a complete whore (for God's sake, at the showed corruption she can achieved in this Act I, if we can play like that at the end of Act III she'll be some kind of Morgoth
) that's your choice.