Netorare is a story arc fetish that depicts the corruption and fall of a woman to the point where it destroys the original bond/relationship she had. That's the vast majority of netorare stories, and the default one the audience assumes when looking at the netorare tag.
This entire topic is an exercise in trying to ignore the generally accepted idea of the fetish (a Japanese one at that) to try and streamline the cataloging rules. That's fine and all, but it will obviously lead to confusion or disagreements due to it not aligning with what people are used to.
Using netorare as a literal replacement for cuckoldry by people that don't even understand the fetish is what's the problem. And it never fails to make me laugh when people insist that Japanese people don't know what they are talking about when they put NTR in the title of a female protag game. Right, you surely know more about this Japanese fetish than those Japanese developers.
I didn't argue that the Japanese fetish as it is understood currently is from the male perspective. What I said was that the problem is that some people (read: some Japanese men) are unable to accept the female main character as the perspective of the story and so they identify themselves with a male subordinate character, and thus, label it from a male subordinate character's perspective. This is done rather than from the main character's perspective simply because the MC is female, whereas in nearly all other cases labeling is done from the male MC's perspective. That is problematic and shows that some people have issues with giving even fictional female characters control of their own stories.
I also didn't argue that cuckoldry and netorare are synonymous and should be interchangeable and that some Japanese men have no clue what they mean by netorare vs. cuckoldry. What I said was that yes there are consumers who have conflated the two to the point that sites have listed them as the same thing.
We could also talk about how people confuse netorare with netorase with netori. But that isn't the topic at hand.
Please make sure you understand my argument before you attempt to contradict it.
Now, please point to me the definitive statement that netorare should only be from the male perspective, even if the main character is female. Because I have never found it written as that to be the case. I have always seen it as sex-neutral. So, to help me better understand, please share that with me.