Do you have a good sample size of intersex individuals who interact at the Futanari Palace? A problem many of us have (including myself) with wondering if a word is derogatory or a slur is that we are looking at a word from outside the experiences of people to which that word is attached.
We can find many examples used in recent history for a lot of terms (not just one for porn genres) where this is the case. The quickest is the naming of sports mascots from slurs for indigenous people.
At one time, we did. However, to be fair, FP has faded over the years. However, we have
always had an open, warm and accepting environment for
everyone. I have personally handled bigots before and dealt with them accordingly. At the same time, I have also seen people come in over the years and start flame wars because
their personal definitions and terms of the fetish were not enforced. That is the challenge: sorting out legitimately bigoted terminology from current terms that are being interpreted by
individuals as derogatory. On a personal note,
I have known several trans people who do not have a problem with the term. So, from my own experiences, yes, I can say this is the first time I have ever heard of the term being considered by
anyone as derogatory. At the same time, I am not going to say my own personal experiences are the end-all, be-all either. Were I trans*, the only thing I would hate to be called is "late for dinner." XD
EDIT: I do not want to get too far down this rabbit hole because it will derail the thread.
*Despite what I write, I consider myself straight. I write futa because I
cannot stand seeing another dude in porn. The genitalia does not matter to me, the body form does. Again,
that is me.