Unfortunately, I haven't had time to play through the new versions of the game. However, it must be agreed that Tony is not an equal partner to Anne. It's perfectly fine that the game has a cheating, a swinger and a cuckolding branch. These are difficult to separate in reality. However, these 3 branches are generally WITHIN an open marriage. This game is good if the partners' TRUST, honesty and openness towards each other is MUTUAL. So the principle of something for something is expected in the game. The beginning of the game reflects this perfectly, as it is about marriage becoming open. Later, it is legitimate to observe that the players' character does not change with the opening of the marriage. This is reflected in the disproportions in cheating.
In an open marriage, Anne should be at least (sooner or later) as excited about Tony being with other women as Tony is about being a peeping Tom. Anne's getting excited and her outburst of jealousy are two different things. From the comments, it seems that there is no trust and interest between the spouses to allow Tony to share his adventures openly to Anne. Missing from the game are Tony's detailed accounts of his own adventures, which he asks and never demands of Anne
This is one of the reasons why Tony's character is relegated to the background and why his adventures become petty and pathetic cheatings.