I believe my response was clear enough on this: if your wife contributed to the household, then acting as if she doesn't would make your behavior unfair and deserving all aforementioned adjectives. If your wife did not contribute to the household in any manner, then regardless of your financial situation, you'd be entitled to call her out on it, unless this situation was an arrangement both of you had agreed upon, i.e. she's specifically free to do as she pleased with her time, with no expectations from you regarding her contributions.
This scenario has multiple problems. One, if you see no money coming from your wife then there's a question *why* you aren't seeing any of it coming. Two, the reasons for this should've been addressed and discussed, not just presumed. But three, this is something that *both* parties should be interested in discussing, rather than just one not giving a fuck and leaving it to the other to make presumptions.
Again, that's a matter of communication. For one, the idea that home is a place with "no drama and complications" and that it's somehow failure on wife's part when it's not --or her obligation to make it that way in the first place-- is dubious at best. Drama and complications happen in relationships aplenty, and whether these are "unnecessary" complications is up to both parties, not just one.
All that shouldn't be confused with physical aspects of maintaining a household (cleaning, washing, taking care of food, etc) If you have arrangement these things are your wife's responsibilities then they are her responsibilities and should be taken care of, hopefully with as much enthusiasm as you have for your own work. Although, with a caveat -- since you are not your spouse's boss but a partner, criticizing and belittling them if their performance isn't up to your standards is understandably controversial, especially if you aren't doing any of that work yourself. I mean, as long as she isn't your actual boss or an expert in her own right you wouldn't really take kindly your wife shitting on how you do your work, would you.
If our MC has an arrangement with his wife that he's free to laze all day and only ever spend money he doesn't earn, then it's fine for him to do so. Otherwise, she's got every right to feel at the very least miffed about his behavior and voice her concerns. Or, in scenario where there was such agreement about MC's complete lack of responsibilities, to discuss changing the initial arrangement, if it turns out unsatisfactory.
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