It's not like that. I have relatively few comments, try not to ask stupid questions and don't appreciate those who are either condescending, or make assumptions and/or generalizations though I'm sure I unintentionally will do the same of course since we are human. I was asking for help. I'm not a gooner and I don't even know what that is in the lingo but it sounds incredibly insulting and unnecessary to say to someone on this site.
I played this game the first time through from a much earlier version onto further updates and didn't have to deal with to this degree with needing the women to all get a certain friendship level I can't see. My saves didn't work any longer so I had to completely restart which has not been fun. Now I just don't want to do something where if I make a choice Rogue is going to like lose 500 hearts and trust or something for me daring to try and advance the sexual stuff with a third character I had already previously unlocked all of that for.
So again thanks to the help above, Null Void Abyss for the suggestion.