Ahh damn, that one must have slipped me by while I was debugging. If there is a bug, it'll be resolved in 0.04, thanks for reporting it!
As for your other point, yeah, there is no middle ground, and it's kind of an explicit design decision. I don't really like using the labels of NTR/vanilla, but that's what everyone is most familiar with.
I'm being incredibly honest when I say I am depicting a Realistic Mode and a Fairy Tale Mode. In real life, the only people who collect 'harems' are Saudi princes and tinpot dictators. If their harem collecting process were to be a game, I'm pretty sure most people couldn't stomach a game like that.
Even when you see the rich and famous in the West with plenty of women around them, no one is loyal to one person. Everyone is sleeping with everyone else, and there are literally girls who rich mfs pass around themselves because they're known to be trustworthy enough not to baby trap you.
It's a bleak world out there, and unfortunately some people can't handle it, which is why I had to make a Fairy Tale Mode. In my mind, Fairy Tale Mode is meant to describe how most guys stumble through life, completely oblivious to their surroundings, and the dialogue/scenes reflect that. If it wasn't clear already, nearly every character in the game is a horrible and hedonistic. There isn't really a middle ground between being a piece of shit and...not being one, hence the two very distinct game modes.
A lot of people have said "urhm...how can you be a Giga Chad when you can't build a 14th Century harem out of a bunch of incredibly ruthless and successful modern women???". Well, quite frankly, the MC is as Giga Chad as he can possibly be in this cold cold world we live in
Thanks for playing the game! Hope the writeup was explanatory and not too long.