Here's what I get:
1) After Sarah nookies with hubby's friend, hubby happy and training ends.
2) I contact her as former client the next day. She asks if I still respect her, she says hubby has given him open invitation to visit them, I ask "What if I want my thank you in person without having to share you with his friends, and without him watching." Sarah replies that "we shouldn't do that. I know he's okay with you sleeping with me, but that's with him watching." I try again, saying I want her undivided attention, she shoots me down again saying she doesn't want to mess up her and hubby being in a good place. My only options after that are visit her house or nothing right now.
3) I have sex with her and others at her place a zillion times, but never get to ask her if she wants to be my GF.
What am I missing here?