I tend to agree here. For me, any first time, whoever's it may be, should have some buildup, some intimacy, and not necessarily be a kink fest. A very rare set of characters in a very rare set of stories may have good reason to have it differently, but as a general rule I think that works better. People tend to be quite apprehensive come their first time and are not going all in "I never did anything like this before, but for my first time I want it to be a double penetration while being tied head down to the statue on town square" is a sentence rarely spoken.