Hello.
I agree in one sense both sides of the coin, but many players do not like seeing their LIs touched by anyone else, its ok for MC to do it hence why a lot play it to have lots of options but the LIs cannot, selfish yes, but thats the way many like it.
I know its a game but seeing LIs with other people brings out the green eyed monster in many and stirs up feelings of anger so i understand that NTR has sub context like Netori, Netorase, etc but it would help when tagging games exactly what type of NTR is in the game, if it is the MC stealing other women from people then game on i will play that shit all day long, if it is sharing my LIs or people stealing my LIs or she plain cheats behind your back then no that is not the type of NTR many like including myself.
I also understand that many do get off on sharing and being cucked so i guess each game should either target a certain audience or make it plainly clear that stuff can be turned off at the beginning of the game. We are all different in things so live and let live but make it clear if you do not want the endless argument over this topic.
I played a game once i got so into the game then end really felt like a stab in the back where you catch your LI fucking your best friend and they laugh at you after spending so much time getting into it, if i new that shit would be possible i would not have played it unless i knew exactly how to avoid it.
Thanks for answering in a correct manner, because it's difficult when it comes to that topic nowadays, particularly here.
I don't self insert so many of the things you are saying don't bother me. The limit is always when a character suffer.
Seeing a LI with other people when I don't court her/him to be together isn't a problem. I can even stumble upon them having sex for some voyeurism for all I care (as long as it's appealing). Stealing women isn't my thing since I hate breaking couples, unless they don't like each other anymore or one of them is awful.
If the protagonist is cheated on and not sad, why should I care, as long as the lover is attractive (we're here to fap and see porn, and I have no interest in ugly bastards).
I apply the same logic in harem games. And the more I play, the less I have fun since I don't like to be a cheater nor making the girls suffer.
But what actually bothers me is the kink shaming going with it and the confusion between player and protagonist.
Good continuation.