Haha, ty ^^ It's funny, I actually asked a very similar question couple month ago when I first discovered this thread, I also really enjoy when the woman takes more of a lead.
https://f95zone.to/threads/translation-request-orc-soft-kanojo-wa-dare-to-demo-sex-suru.87133/ this one was recommended back then and it seems decent, but there's no proper (full) translation available, so dunno. Basically you end up in a relationship with a girl, who from the very beginning makes it clear what she's all about
You're her cameraman only and you don't have sex with her until the very end afaik. Probably doesn't really fit what you're looking for, but I thought the setup was interesting at least.
I'm afraid you're going to be disappointed, at least I haven't found anything that truly captures that sort of style.
'Pandora's Box' has it to some degree, but it's more for reasons of revenge and the whole thing is a setup from the start, but they remain in a somewhat loving relationship with the girl taking the initiative and fucking other guys too. It does overall have very few actual ntrs scenes, though.
'Nothing is Forever' is going in that direction with Kim it seems, but the relationship is anything but loving. At this point it just started and it doesn't have any content in that area. A lot of focus on femdom and humiliation with her, I'm not sure if it'll evolve to a less abusive relationship, kinda doubt it.
I'm keeping an eye on 'Because I love her', the remake does seem very promising so far, but the dev is terrible at keeping deadlines and who knows if/when we'll ever see the update (which is overdue couple month and promises to finally bring some sex.)
Those are just some of the games I found that kinda scratch that itch, but if anyone has more suggestions I'm all ears. What are your thoughts about games from a female pov, because there's some that are interesting in that category as well.