Yngling
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I really enjoyed your and Cynicaladm 's posts, but here (in the bold parts) you seem to be contradicting yourself:
I don't want to advocate any NTR but Omar is in some ways clearly superior to the MC. He's more emotionally available and he may well be more powerful, all things considered.
But, if I may go a bit off-topic, being emotionally distant seems like a proper thing to do for a guy in his profession. In an historical context, I would say that in historical warrior cultures, men were likely to be much more emotionally distant than the modern femboys of today. But I would not say that back in the day, women were more likely to cheat on their "emotionally distant" men, for the reasons you cited.
I fully support your analysis of sexual relationships in a historical context though, and I also like the wording "sexually restrained" vs. "sexually repressed". Good stuff!
I would say that the MC is pretty emotionally detached on a number of levels. He's away a lot. He's involved with plenty of other girls, most purely sexual but some romantically as well. Yes, Zahra is involved with most of those, and she seems not to mind sharing the MC with other girls but at the end of the day, of the little time he spends at home, he spends most of his time with other girls. And even if he is physically available, he's not the most social kind of guy.Yes, men and women are both sexual creatures, but they are different sexual creatures. Not least of the reasons why is the act of penetrating and being penetrated are physically different and actually cause different chemical reaction in the human brain. A study of cross-cultural anthropology (which was a portion of the field I actually went to university for) shows that to be the case. For example (in acknowledge, but statistically significant, generalities), men cheat on their wives when they feel sexual frustrated and an opportunity that they feel they can get away with arise to do so. Meanwhile, women who cheat on their husbands largely do so because the husband is emotional distant and they begin affairs with emotion connects to another man or woman, long before sexual actions occur. In cross-cultural studies on human sexuality, it is shown time and again that in most cases for a man to cheat he just need opportunity and sexual frustration. The quality of the partner is largely irrelevant, though attraction is preferred it is not required, hence why many prostitutes in real life are not always the most attractive women but still make money. While for a woman to cheat she needs the other man to be superior in some way (either more emotional available, or more sexually appealing) to her current option. So, that was my approach to this topic, Zahra has no reason to seek a better partner from either of those typical causes and thus far, nothing has been *shown* in her character to present her as atypical to the vast majority of women and their sexuality in regard to seeking or even being attracted to other partners.
I don't want to advocate any NTR but Omar is in some ways clearly superior to the MC. He's more emotionally available and he may well be more powerful, all things considered.
But, if I may go a bit off-topic, being emotionally distant seems like a proper thing to do for a guy in his profession. In an historical context, I would say that in historical warrior cultures, men were likely to be much more emotionally distant than the modern femboys of today. But I would not say that back in the day, women were more likely to cheat on their "emotionally distant" men, for the reasons you cited.
I fully support your analysis of sexual relationships in a historical context though, and I also like the wording "sexually restrained" vs. "sexually repressed". Good stuff!