I think the push with Vanessa was to show her that it's okay to fail, and the world won't collapse. It's a cornerstone of CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy), from my understanding, to follow some of those negative thought patterns to their ultimate conclusion and show that they aren't as bad as our mind predicts, through its anxiety. And Ashe is pretty happy with how her date went with Vanessa, except the anxiety of having to report (or lie about) her failure to the blackmailer. So I do think that fits with the blackmailer preparing Ashe. Rejection is a natural part of life, and dating; often times it isn't a person rejecting you, but the time/place/context.
But that still doesn't work with the
previous blackmail aswell as the fact that the blackmailer had no qualms sending the gym pics to her boss, that is directly punishing a failure. That's my issue with there not being much of a red thread between the three instances is that if you only look at the date with Vanessa, you can extrapolate that, but within the context of the others it just falls apart.
If the blackmailer wanted to 'prepare' Ashe, what would the buttplug have been for? If they know Ashe then they likely already know that she's pretty perverted, as while she doesn't exactly flaunt it, just her behaviour when talking about it sort of solidifies it as she only turns bashful if that talk is directed towards her in any capacity.
And trying to prepare her for being sexual
with the blackmailer absolutely wouldn't work with Ashe's mentality.
The blackmailer also didn't exactly show her that it was okay to fail, just that the blackmailer wanted her to fail. If you're following CBT, you would follow up with a
LOT of talk regarding what just happened, why it happened and to really delve into the gritty details but it's clear that the blackmailer doesn't really give a shit about that.
There are just too many inconsistencies to say that the blackmailer is someone who wants Ashe to further develop, because there are a lot of other commands that would have made a lot more sense in that regard than just two inherently selfish ones and the last one being more for the shits and giggles and/or to hurt her outright. Atleast to me this doesn't make much sense, it's too much of a leap.
Hungover00 said:
Who said anything about 'force?' The blackmail is coercing Ashe, there's no goon pushing her around, there's no gun against a loved one's head. She's being pressured, she's being convinced that this isn't as bad as the other. The way I'm reading it, the blackmailer is giving Ashe a tough-love push out of her comfort zone (exposure therapy?) to quiet down the Chicken Little part of her brain. And it seems to be working. I'm not seeing the malice you are.
Damn, that's two therapy related techniques I'm hypothesising. Didn't Ashe have a therapist in her younger teens? Did they die, or just...move or something?
Maybe the old therapist is involved as a consultant? Or their files were acquired? Hmm...
Coercion is being forced, but instead of violence it's a subtle threat of repercussion, it is still the act of forcing someone to do something they do not want to do but through words and threats instead.
The one with Vanessa is what I'd definitely call malicious, because none of her anxiety stems from rejection, it stems from self-hatred (due to being different) and people
finding out that she's different. Having someone pushing her to sex only to be rejected because they
wanted her to be rejected is very far from trying to get Ashe to start getting around her issues because it isn't related to her issues.
It's sort of like making someone drink water because they're afraid of water, it isn't aiming at the core issue because sure, Ashe is scared of being intimate but that fear isn't related to rejection. This is the main reason why I don't think that the person blackmailing is actually wanting Ashe to develop and get over her issues.
Either that or the person blackmailing her doesn't actually understand her issues and
thinks her issues are related to rejection, but if that was the case then the only one we have information on that has dealt with how Ashe handled rejection is Rachel, and I don't want to open that can of worms nor do I really want to entertain the thought as I already dislike that character.
Ashe and Rachel did both have a therapist and IIRC they just moved away
, but I'd have to go back and check because I can't fully recall with certainty.