I fuilly understand you. No offence taken. But once again having one trait really doesn't make you "a little bit ADHD / autistic / insert any other neurological dissabillity" like those folks like to say as an attempt to make you feel better about yourself. It's not helping. At least for me. You really need an amount of traits to have that diagnosis. Being able to identify and having suspicions for having a neurological dissabillity is one thing. Getting that diagnosis also would takes time due waiting lists etc and some specialists in that field, but that can be a real game changer.
It sucks being misunderstood all the time, struggling with taking everything literally, black-and-white thinking, struggling with reading social cues properly, making enough eye-contact, all that small talk bullshit that NT people like to do, sensory stimuli isseus, executive dysfunction ... etc.
I know women are often gets misdiagnosed when they really have ADHD. My mom was possibly one of them (passed away, so i'll never probably know for sure) and when I have learned you can have both ADHD and autism like half year ago I'm now undergoing through the process of getting an ADHD diagnosis myself. By the end of august it's estiminated I'll get my evaluation report. I do know both autism and ADHD have string evidence on being related to genetics, so yeah. I do struggle a lot with a lot of non-autistic issues like getting late, not being able to complete tasks, daydreaming almost all the time, not paying attention, loosing constantly stuff, and it's been like that since childhood. My autism is most likely the more dominant one, since I've been diagnosed ASD when I was 16.
Having an actual neurodivergent brain that's expected to thrive in a neurotypical society fucking sucks. I almost ended my own life because of this.
