Do you remember the first time you watched porn? Was it just sexually arousing? I'm sure you felt guilty, uncomfortable, unpleasant, even angry, along with a variety of other negative emotions, but I bet you felt very intense. I think people come to cuckolds and incents because they want to feel those emotions again. In cuckolds, the more miserable and pathetic the MC becomes, the more intense the discomfort, the more intense the sexual arousal, without the reader losing empathy for the MC. That's why those elements you hate are so important. You'll get used to them.