the context is that there are literally such scenes in some games
do you mean the scene as you describe it being in some games and moderators saying that scene on its own isn't netorare? if so i fail to see where the issue is, so i wondered if there's something more to it (for example, the wife later doubting what she thinks about one of the assaulters, or something else that leads to her abandoning the mc, that got ignored by those mods and you forgot to mention here)
This is up to the mods to decide. you are not a mod.
if you're implying you wanted to talk with the staff in private, this is a public thread on a forum and anybody can chip in.
i'm not seeing explicit contradictions in the definitions you quoted and with them in mind there's no visible netorare in that isolated scene. there's a chance my view aligns more with the staff's on this and so you could use this as an opportunity to express your concerns in more detail and strengthen your position. if you're not interested, it's up to you not to continue this exchange and wait for ryahn or another authority figure to drop by.
... jealous does not mean "I wish I was doing exactly what they are doing".
your partner is being raped now. where's/what's the jealousy in here?
