Not to beat up a dead horse or anything, but I was surprised nobody bothered to refute this part of your original comment that provoked the scat discussion, and everyone simply focused on the claims you made about the fetish. Just saying, this is not only untrue, but also somewhat belittling of the intellect of women as a class of people, because it assumes all of them think or act in the same expectable socially-conservative way! Many would lose respect for you ofc, as would a lot of men if they find out you're into what they consider weird/disgusting/satanist/<insert derogatory epithet here> shit, as wider society still shuns fetishes to a pretty large extent, but there are quite a few women that wouldn't lose respect for you. (as attested by plenty of the people who live in happy F/m relationships that replied above...)
You also control to a large extent how much a non-kinky woman might lose respect for you if you do admit to your submissive fetishes based on how you reveal that and how much you consider her personality, what you know about her etc. (I for one was never in a relationship with a really dominant woman, but I had a past girlfriend who found my thing for femdom "cute", even though she wasn't turned on by it and we didn't do much, and that only lead to her revealing some of her fantasies in an interesting conversation and us dating as normal for months afterwards, only knowing each other even better than before - obviously personal experience is not solid evidence of anything and should always be taken with a grain of salt, but neither is your broad sweeping claim that "Women can never respect a guy after" or "femdom doesn't work irl"...

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The claim "all women expect a guy to be able to handle everything" suffers from the same generalization problem, and even if accepted as true, (which it isn't) it glosses over the fact that a man with submissive kinks is in no way less capable than any other man to "handle everything". It implies a link that isn't there between a sexual preference and being able to handle difficult situations. (it's essentially the same stupid mistake a lot of poorly-written games make of equating submissive with stupid/incapable)
Anyway, feeling much better now that I fulfilled my daily feminist rant quota!

This is not intended as a personal attack against you or even to say you were intuitively wrong (as I can believe that, especially if one lives in more socially-conservative environments, it can very much feel to them like "all women lose respect for submissive men"), but that those claims are materially wrong and misportray women... (in a pretty demeaning way mind you)
I would've honestly shut up about this if anyone bothered with refuting this part of your post the past few days, but alas nobody did and therefore the viral debate-bro infection in every synapse of my nervous system fired up and forced me to type every word of this!

Have a great weekend, and, as I said, don't take this as a personal attack!