Amusingly, I also think similarly. Those who exaggerate "abuse" Nicki suffered at hands of Brent
apart from loan papers fraud ofc are probably living sheltered lives and never been hurt for real. Funny how that works huh.
Well and I think yours is too high.
Fetishization of victimhood in cultures that are dominant in english speaking internet created effect that makes some people too eager to put other people and/or themselfs into victim category. By silly definition of abuse of some people in this thread every single relationship longer than a few months is abusive.
But oh well, cultural differences are too great here so I am not gonna argue any further on this topic.
At least this discussion resurrected my disdain for Nicki. Never a partner material that one, an unreliable friend or a pet at best.
Hey, I know there's a culture of victimhood developing in the west (and beyond? not sure if this is global phenomenon), and that's its own discussion, but this is not that. Emotional abuse is an actual thing; this is not something that some sensitive hippies made up or something. If you use or manipulate someone for the sole purpose of serving yourself and without any consideration for them, you are abusing them. It's not complicated. It just so happens this is exactly what Brent does and has done to Nikki.
Again, as others have said, it seems some people understand the word abuse only applying to things that are so obvious like physically striking someone, sexually assaulting them, etc., and while those are obviously much more brutal and serious than emotional abuse (or at the very least, their damage floors and ceilings are much higher than emotional abuse, if that makes sense), they are under the overall umbrella of abuse, which includes emotional abuse.
And yes, I agree that people are responsible for their own actions, but there's a reason that millions of people, both women and men, around the world get therapy exactly for getting out of and avoiding these kinds of relationships; this is an entire scientific and medical field after all my friend. You do not choose your personality or psychology, and many people do not naturally possess the toolbox you and I have to keep ourselves secure from those types. Hell, even when you do, sometimes these abusive kinds of people can sneak up on you; some of them are very crafty apex predators.
One last example to punch in the point; pyramid schemes are considered a form of marketing and investment fraud. Now, for some people, mainly the people who start these businesses, it's very easy to just dismiss their victims and say, at best, that their "business models" aren't, in fact, a kind of abuse, as the people who pay them are doing it of their own volition, after all, and some of them (read: almost none) make good money from it. At worst, they show their true colors and say that they're just suckers and should be more intelligent, it's their fault after all that they let smarter people take their own money. Do you see the parallels? From the outside, it might just look like a bunch of morons not using their brain and you might think "well, they're responsible for their own actions, and therefore they are not victims", but from the inside, it is so very obvious that it's not that simple and that they are, in fact, victims. And thank goodness the majority of countries have come to the wisdom that we shouldn't let vulnerable people be manipulated like this.
And lastly, ok, I just wanna apologize if my tone is coming off as rude or something or if I'm pressing my point way too hard. I obviously feel strongly about this opinion, so I hope you don't take it personally
I'll leave you alone now, sorry
