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I dated a transman and my partner dated a transwoman at different times and neither had any interest in having bottom part surgery for a long list of reasons but primarily because their gender dysphoria had more to do with social perception and presentation than biological essentialism. Bottom surgery is essential for some cases of dysphoria but is not always helpful. All forms of transition are measured against the degree to which it will reduce feelings of dysphoria and there is also a concern that some treatments in fact service an addiction to cosmetic surgery, which always needs to be a consideration in the course of a treatment plan. There is an entire culture war over these treatments as well as cross-dressing in a performative sense (drag or kink) that is entirely distinct. What we have learned is that you never quite know what is going to shake someone's tree sexually but what gender they identify as has little to do with it.