Did you guys have very domineering mothers or quite passive/absent fathers or maybe even a domineering older sister etc? Just wondering how such a kink emerges in men, because in women (dommes) you sometimes find it's either the result of trauma caused by an abusive male figure (so dominating men sexually heals those wounds maybe) or the women are actually lesbians who are only dommes because the pay is good (usually that's why you hear dommes say that they don't feel the dynamic is sexual, but for the men involved it absolutely is) but for men, seems a lot of guys have this kink despite I suppose the more natural inclination being towards slight dominance (the archetypal masculine figure is usually sexually and socially dominant - not apparent to me that it's just a social construct given how interwoven the concept is across different cultures and throughout history, and when I am feeling healthy and virile, I do become slightly more dominant too which makes me think both socialization and testosterone play a role).
Not pointing the finger at anyone with these questions by the way, not your fault really for having them if they are formed so early on, but just curious to understand exactly what's happened. The reason I say this is I noticed that sort of concept in my own childhood. My family very much had the more modern, western dynamic where my mother made all the decisions around the house, my older sister and her friends used to boss me around because of the age gap between us (a possibly how she was raised too) and my dad was also usually bossed around by my mum and quite passive (he could be fiery to anyone outside the family if they were antagonising us but was definitely subservient to my mother and the women in my family didn't really respect him as the "man" of the house, but my mum definitely had everyone's respect).