I do not wish to dismiss your personal preference. You have the right to like whatever you like. But I have spent 2 days thinking about this rigid line in the sand you have drawn in "harem games", and to be honest, i find it a dangerous psychological reality. I think it obvious that you did not look very deeply into "Harem", or I feel fairly sure you would have seen the change in the PC that occurs if one chooses to be entirely "good" (The focus actually shifts, very cleverly, to "empowering" the women to be whatever it is they most want themselves to be, and they begin to love that - and he starts after the first few girls, telling them exactly what the deal is, and only "accepting" them if they choose that reality). That withstanding, this idea you have that there are "good guys" in these games strikes me as somewhat dangerous. I have not played all the games you mentioned, but I have played half, and I know for certain that at least of few of them have aspects that more philosophically dark than what I saw in "Harem".
The context you laid out made me think of one person who had a harem of girls, and did not "force" any of them (with one possible exception)...his name was Charles Manson. The truth is; in the history of humanity, no man that had a harem was a "good guy". They are always either slavers, or cult leaders - because women do not actually want to be sex-toys, in reality. "Harem hotel" is a great example. The PC manages to be a very "good guy" for one reason...the women all exist as a male fantasy in-so-far as they are all fine with being taken when the PC wants. I happen to think "Harem Hotel" is the best game here, but understand...that is a fantasy. There are not 12 women on earth who really behave like those women do. So for your fantasy of a "good guy with a harem" to actually exist in your mind, you must delude yourself as to what females actually are...and I think that is far more dangerous than just enjoying a bit of darker fantasy role-play. Just my opinion of course, but I hope you give it a moment's thought.