So uh, the reasons you got for the "atrocious writing" is literally 90% of AVNs.
Theres a reason why theres something called a "Porn-game scenario"
Just like the "I'm struck in the washing machine, help me stepbro"-scenario,
shits absolutely ridiculous, but most still manage to stroke the snake to it(which is the point).
And saying that it's disrespectful to other devs with good writing, is actually more disrespectful in itself.
If you're out here putting down other devs styles, just because you like certain ones, is really sad.
This is all
Your opinion, because i guarantee that theres devs with really good wrting out there,
who can definitely enjoy the default "porn-game scenario"-style of AVNs aswell.
Although they themselves decide, to take their own novels to a different plain entirely.
So there is 100% AVNs out there, with amazing writing and captivating stories.
But if you play one of those, and then expect every other AVN you jump into, to have the same,
you'll never be satisfied with any writing whatsoever.
If you cannot embrace the ridiculousness of certain elements in these novels,
theres not really much anybody can tell you, besides pick up a best-selling book and read that shit instead.
Thats honestly the best advice i can give, if you're craving Only good writing and realistic moments.
Thats just My opinion on this matter, gotta be positive and embrace things sometimes, and stop being a debbie-downer.