To me, when it comes to sex, there's nothing that should be secret between two people in a serious relationship. Think it through, if you think it's such a big deal that it could ruin your relationship, would it be better for her to find out from your mouth, or for her to find you jacking it to a dog fucking a futa while she sucks a horse's cock?
You know women like sex too, right? In fact, pick up a single "romance novel" at your local grocery store, I almost guarantee you the female lead will "give" herself over to a dominant male character. There's a reason that 50 shades did so well despite being the most vanilla bdsm content ever written. As for the difficulty, kinda depends on what you want to do. For me, fucking in the changing stalls at the beach is enough to sate exhibitionism, and a sub or switch would be all that's necessary to sate that and everything but the bestiality and bukkake (though if I really wanted to, a sub would be all I needed to have that happen too)
What's that supposed to mean? Obviously women like sex (at least a good percentage of it does, can't say for who doesn't) so it's not really a valid point here, that you quoted. Also, that is in fact what you just said: a "romance novel" and not real life. Even myself could read 50 shades of shit but in the end, not being masochist or sadist or whatever that is written inside that book. And not every women that read that, again, suddenly becomes masochist, etc.. or wants immediately to try what is like to be just like the female char there. Let's not pretend that every women who reads, watch or hear things, immediately they wants to do/try that, ending liking it.
But again, what you're saying and quoting by making these kind of examples, are just "
common things" and again, futanari and bestiality are not "
common things". Fucking in the stalls at the beach, or the one inside a clothing shop or anything, is something that at least everyone,
everyone does at least once in a lifetime (being because of Lust or not). But being fucked by a dog, again, it's not normal. It's not something that people can understand and like, moreover if those people are females. A female can be as much perverted as you want, but like I said previously, only one girl out of millions out there can be that. Maybe going out with a Trans/Shemale (since futanari doesn't exist in real life obviously, so let's change subject for a moment here) can be.. considered a "common thing" (not for me, thanks. So even if I watch videos of them or anything, doesn't mean that I suddenly want to go and take a dick right in my ass because a female just took it in the video, and suddenly I want to experience what is like) but still, again, bestiality isn't. And will never be, period.
I mean, let's just stop it here. In the end, we are two different people: while you're more.. prone in risking your own relationship by saying everything,
everything that you like, there are others like me who don't mind saying certain fetish, but the most depraved one's instead are better kept secret. If then one day that possible wife comes in a bad moment and find out, that will be the moment to tell the truth - or maybe divorce because she's just too blind to try and understand.