my dad used to beat me when i was kid so when i grew up and saw him try to raise hand of my mom i beat the shit out of him and he ended up kicking me out of house and called police on me. So yeah, i have no respect for Andres in playthroughs where he raises hand on MC. But other playthroughs where that does not happen i am capable of not holding grudge against him for something he did not do so i do make MC hug him for reasons you already pointed out
EDIT: another reason to not him is because we know he is repeating offender. IF he made mistake and now asks for forgiveness i would be more inclined to agree with you to live and let live. But we know that he is repeating offender, he cheated on Emily, then he left her for someone else, and then during one of the visits to alvarado (again, i am bad with names so i apologize if i mispelled the town name) we see him cheating on cara/nikki's mom with someone else or maybe my timelines are getting blurry so maybe this scene happen when he is not dating their mom anymore either way, he is already on his next target... and judging from the pattern he probably fucked up that one as well before the visit in new chapter.
so there is a big difference between "i have seen the errors of my ways and i am sorry for what i did" and "oops i did it again" IMO
Number one - I am sorry you experienced that in your personal life and I completely understand why you feel that way.
It's a shitty experience to have to live with.
My statements (as most about the game) are made from being in the MC shoes (as I would play him from my experiences).
I try to look at what he positively did for MC over what he negatively did for his own life(and I may be too lenient on him, I will grant that).
Was it confirmed he cheated on Emily? I'm hazy on that one for some reason. I do believe he did cheat on Hailey (also not sure if it's confirmed, but that's what I believe.)
My hope is he(Andres) is on the path to admitting and taking accountability of his mistakes and transgressions.
If he screws up just one more time though, I do hope there's a option to pummel him like Ethan, because I will be done with him there.