Are you asking for real, or just bragging about that really good salve you found?
I assume it's the first, but just in case:
- That low nature is a bit scary, but if you make sure not to trash her temperament, it should be fine.
- That graceful trait is really useful: It makes her more likely to accept dancing practice, and will improve her mood if she does it. You could give her the corresponding artist specialization, but even if you don't, you'll have a relatively easy way of making her obey orders early by giving her dancing practice, and obeying those will let you give her rewards for more obedience.
I'd suggest first ordering her to do something she won't do, punish her to get a bit of fear, then give her dancing training to improve her mood after the punishment.
- Oh, and get rid of that spoiling asap. I think put in place was what reduces spoiling? and your aura is stronger than hers, so you should succeed with that as well.
- And her pride needs to go down, as usual, so get a steel collar for that -pride daily. Mood bonus from dancing practice should easily make up for the mood penalty from the colar.