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Is that really any/much different to the opposite...male dom with female submissive?I've always wanted to ask you guys who play the sub routes. How can crawling on your knees and humiliating yourself be an act of showing a romantic relationship to a character? No, I get that you like femdom from a roleplay fetish perspective, but where is "romance" in that equation?
Sure the lines can be blurred and I could discuss this topic literally until the cows come home and fill this thread full of talk, discussion and opinions (you may recall me mentioning myself being a dom of almost 30 years now). For me, a D/s relationship cannot exist without romance. Now I understand what we have in KG is slightly different, though also being fair, the relationships are barely beginning at the moment.
D/s is 95% pyschological...a submissive puts trust in their dom. They allow their dom to be a dom. There is great emotion, respect, trust and honesty in that relationship. That can only come with time...and with that closeness, that connection, that state of being...comes romantic feelings also. How and what the dom and their sub conduct in things is down to them. It does not lessen nor diminish the romantic relationship. Why I refuse to believe people when they claim they are sub trainers etc. Utter bollox. You cannot train a sub, except for yourself. Because of everything I just stated. It's impossible to train a submissive for someone else because they are only allowing you to do what you do, because of the trust and respect. Why would they respect and trust the person you're 'training' them for? Doesn't work that way. It's also like all the fake and wannabe doms and subs out there (especially on the net, such sites as Reddit etc). A bit of kinky sex...a dom and a sub does very much not make. Being either is very much a state of mind, a state of being, what and who you are.
Slaves, are a completely different kettle of fish (as we say here in the UK). A slave has no voice, no opinion and no say. There is little to no romance there. Most slaves do what they are told out of fear or punishment. There is little respect there or even emotional connection. So in your question...for a slave, I completely agree with what you are asking...a submissive, very different thing.
Now again, to reiterate, other than the slave aspect, the world of KG is very different to our own, however, considering the secret sub routes, take Alessandra for example, she requires a strong Kane, she wants a strong dominant Kane for all outward appearances. She cannot be seen with what is perceived as a weak man. She wants someone to love and respect her as she is and I assume vice-versa too. In private however, very different story...and I'm sure the love and connection you would share with her (as a sub in private) is immense.
Edit: I probably rambled too much then and went too far away from the question/comment you made so....apologies, it's just a topic I am naturally very passionate about.
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