For a first playthrough? Focus on 1 attack type, kill your enemies quickly, avoid pleasure damage, and run if you think you'll lose. Save sex for either Free Mode, if Happy End, or another playthrough if Empress end. Lewd build is time consuming, so do your research if you don't want to waste a shit ton of hours just to lose.
P.S. You get more money the lower your Order drops. Don't purposely let it lower, but also don't waste money on raising it unless you're close to losing. Hitting 0 order gives a bad end (no lewd either). Adding Control is fine. Just don't torpedo your income.