Okay, this is going to sound weird, but Della is my first problem with the game. If Stan meets the maker, I'm sorry but I just cannot go after Della. When it comes to the brotherhood in the military, its hands off with the spouses. I know its a game but its crossing a line.
No worries Runner. "If" there is a line to be crossed, you will have choice rather to cross it or not. Everyone needs to follow their own moral compass as they see fit and fuck what anyone else thinks about it.
As to if it is hands off spouses or not; In both cases, it is up to the people involved. I know of cases when a member of a club is locked down, his brothers would take care of his Ol'lady (financially, and otherwise
). It should
never happen without the brother's permission though. Doing so could get you killed, the fuck beaten out of you, or kicked out of the club. (Most likely all three in the case of some of the clubs...) Is that situation out of the norm? Absolutely. They are called 1%'ers for a reason.
With the military; It is not unheard of for a guy rotating back stateside to have a conjugal visit with one of his buddy's wife or girlfriend. If they are all consenting adults and in agreement, no harm, no foul in my book. It is a shitty dick move if it is done behind their buddy's back...
On dead spouses; Not to get too personal, but my mother dated and then lived with one of my father's closest buddies after he died. My dad and his buddy had fought, drank and had been through some really bad shit together. My mom grieved for several years after my dad passed. I was glad to see her get on with her life with someone that loved my dad as much as she did. He never tried to be my dad, but instead told me things I didn't know about my dad. I loved hearing stories of about the shit they had been through together that dad never got to tell me. The situation was never weird to me, but I'm extremely open minded.
I know some would be repulsed (cringy in the current vernacular, but using that word makes me cringe...
) by any of the above events to happen. You don't have to accept the mindset or condone the behavior, but I assure you it does happen. We are talking about people with extremely close relationships dealing with extreme situations.
I hope I didn't come off too preachy. My intent was to inform, not preach.
Take care,
OBD