I wasn't snappy about receiving criticism, I was just confused by those particular points. Although this follow up explanation clears up a couple of them.
The reason not much is avoidable is because it's part of who those characters are. The idea of the game isn't individual characters, but the group as a whole. So having some parts being optional would dilute the relationships between characters. For example, the part about Claire boinking Amy shows they have a very close house mate/friend relationship, which will play into later scenes.
Uploading the pictures is 100% required, there are points that require all the images to be uploaded (such as unlocking the photostudio) which couldn't be done if people were just picking and choosing certain ones to upload. It's also the only way to earn money in the game, so it can't be optional or that creates money balancing issues. While I understand not everyone would be happy about sharing their girls images online irl, I'm surprised that's an issue in a game, especially where other than you uploading it, you never run into anyone that's actually seen them (that's one thing that won't ever be in the game as that crosses a line for a lot of people).
While I would love to be able to do something extremely modular, that's just not how this game works. It's designed around all the characters being involved, with each of them having their own unique traits. I'm certainly not ignoring your opinion, unfortunately there just isn't much I can do to appease it as your main issues are the main concepts of the game.
But I do apologise for the tone of my previous post, you just caught me on a particularly grumpy day, so I'm sorry for that