So please cite an instance where she denied him a request please to prove she has some control....as baraka said, she is not a slave. its a fetish to be dominated during sexual acts eg. that doesn't mean that she has to obey him every time, hence being his slave and giving away her life to him. in real life a lot of people like to be dominated or like to dominate (for females you can call her dominatrix) but aren't slaves.