Honestly, I play a mix. Sure, I try to fit the best people often but I also make decisions with no real reason at all other than my own personal fun. Should I have married Aria and have her at home living with me? Absolutely not. But I did. Should I be spending lots of time and money on making Adrienne my accountant (probably my biggest training job so far, her stats are awful)? No, Armand is cheap enough but the bank quest kind of gave me the wrong vibes about him. Should I have released all my salves, make them servants and given them a salary? Oh, well...View attachment 5536060
You do what need to be done when the time demand it, you're in NO hurry, if she fit a role when you need it than it's all that matter, there's no "wrong" way of doing things.
also, min-maxers have never been loved by their fathers, it's a coping mechanism, they are not better than everybody.
Having my own fun and making "my own lore" is as important (if not more) as chasing stats and skills in games. It would be too boring for me if I was "optimal".