man will this game ever get a real update
We release in small batches of normally 3 events every 2-3 weeks. If you're comparing to games that update every 4 months, then it's more like 14-16 events in that time, and usually a new monster girl as well. There's a reason I list the dates next to each changelog, it's so everyone can see that despite the comparatively smaller updates, we are updating more frequently than games of a similar nature. It basically all evens out.
If you mean main story content, that would be what the next two patron updates are actually. Public is one behind them though. That includes a new map area, a new barn and a new event type for that barn. This is probably the longest stretch without a story update, but we put out 4 girls and nearly 70 events since the last one, all while finishing other stuff on the backend like sections of the map, multiple monster girls (everything but the events), story, writing, etc.
If you're just looking at the monster girls' content as if it's not 'real', that's kind of the main aspect of the game.
Other than that, not really sure what you personally consider a 'real' update.