she was walking naked in the house? what do u call that...
I think they're referring to the depravity escalation being optional rather than mandatory. Some events like Bruce nutting in Raf's mouth during their "make out session," on all paths, will almost certainly repel readers who aren't into that sort of surprise.
I have the same preference, where ideally the MC/player would set the activity list in the NTS path instead of being led by disrespectful friends and a headstrong wife who's in love with them. I split the crowd into NTR enjoyers (who usually get off on the "I'm inferior, out of control, and anxious" feelings and are more passive) and NTS enjoyers (who usually want to direct the LI, get off on sexual liberation/positivity, and enjoy being involved in the action). The writing in this game focuses heavily on the "I'm out of control and anxious" type feelings of the MC on both paths.
I'm enjoying this content even though I consider myself part of the NTS crowd. I think the dev is doing a good job adding in dialogue between Raf and MC to reconcile the stuff she's doing with their relationship. It's not perfect, but it allows for a reasonable release cadence without bogging development time down on completely separate scenarios.